Understanding Relationship Dependence: How to Recognize and Overcome It

Relationship dependence can manifest in ways that feel similar to other forms of addiction, such as the dependency on substances like nicotine. At its core, this dependence often begins during the early, thrilling stages of a relationship, where the "high" of new connection and excitement is sought. However, over time, this craving for the rush can lead to unhealthy patterns, preventing individuals from forming sustainable and balanced relationships.

What Is Relationship Dependence?

Relationship dependence is when an individual becomes excessively reliant on romantic relationships or the need for love to feel validated, fulfilled, or secure. This can lead to emotional instability and an inability to form long-lasting, healthy connections. People struggling with relationship dependence often experience intense feelings of excitement during the early stages of relationships, but may struggle to maintain meaningful connections as time goes on. The dependence becomes about chasing the "high" from the initial phase rather than building a grounded, healthy bond.

Symptoms of Relationship Dependence

• Feeling most fulfilled during the beginning stages of a relationship, when everything feels new and exciting.
• Jumping from one relationship to another, unable to be single for any significant amount of time.
• Becoming obsessed or overly focused on your current partner or love interest.
• Smothering or being overly dependent on the other person for validation and emotional security.
• Experiencing intense fear of being alone or not being in a relationship at all.

When Should You Seek Support?

If you find yourself constantly seeking relationships for validation but struggle to maintain them once the initial excitement fades, it may be time to consider reaching out for professional support. This is especially true if you feel uneasy or incomplete when not in a relationship, or if you often hear that you are "too needy" or "clingy" in your relationships. Therapy can help you explore the underlying causes of your dependence, and work towards building healthier ways of connecting with others.

How Therapy Can Help with Relationship Dependence

There are several therapeutic approaches that can support you in overcoming relationship dependence and fostering healthier, more balanced relationships. These include:

• Behavior Therapy: This approach focuses on understanding how your behavior is influenced by your environment and social conditioning. It emphasizes practical behavioral changes that can help improve your relationships.
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT helps you recognize how your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions shape your behaviors. It equips you with tools to break free from unhealthy patterns and create more positive ways of thinking about yourself and your relationships.
• Existential Therapy: This type of therapy delves into your sense of self, helping you understand the meaning behind your choices and behaviors. It encourages personal responsibility and empowers you to make decisions that align with your true values.

What to Expect from Therapy at Wholesome Psychology

If you are struggling with relationship dependence, know that you are not alone. At Wholesome Psychology, our team of certified therapists in Canada offers a compassionate, client-centered approach to therapy. We understand that each person's journey is unique, and we work closely with you to find the right therapeutic approach tailored to your needs.

With time, support, and the right tools, it is possible to break free from unhealthy relationship patterns and build lasting, fulfilling connections. We are here to help you reclaim your life and discover healthier ways to connect with others. Our therapists are here to guide you, offering practical tools and a safe space to explore your emotions and experiences.

If you're ready to take the next step toward healing and personal growth, contact us today. Let’s work together to help you find the right support and start your journey towards healthier relationships.