Trying to conceive (TTC) can be a hopeful and transformative chapter for many couples and individuals. However, this journey also brings emotional, physical, and relational challenges that are often not discussed openly. At Wholesome Psychology, we offer a compassionate, client-centered approach to counselling for those navigating intimacy issues and relationship stress while trying to conceive in Edmonton and St. Albert.

The Impact of Fertility Stress on Relationships

The pressure to conceive can sometimes overshadow intimacy and strain emotional connection. What starts as an act of love can begin to feel scheduled, mechanical, or even emotionally distant. When conception doesn't happen as quickly as expected, feelings of disappointment, anxiety, and even grief may arise. These emotional layers can have a profound impact on sexual desire and relationship satisfaction.

It’s common for couples to find themselves out of sync—where one partner may crave closeness and reassurance through intimacy, the other may feel overwhelmed or disconnected. Navigating these dynamics requires open communication, empathy, and sometimes, professional guidance. Seeking support is not a sign of failure; it’s a proactive step toward maintaining emotional health and connection during a vulnerable time.

Understanding Changes in Libido While TTC

Libido is influenced by a wide range of factors, including hormones, mental health, relationship satisfaction, and external stressors. For those trying to conceive, the emotional weight of the process can lead to fluctuating sexual desire. While some individuals experience increased closeness and intimacy, others may notice a decline in interest or arousal.

Common factors that influence libido while TTC include:

• Stress related to fertility treatments or scheduled intercourse
• Disappointment after negative pregnancy tests
• Feelings of inadequacy or pressure to "perform"
• Physical fatigue or side effects from fertility medications
• Loss of spontaneity in the relationship

These experiences are valid and deserve compassionate attention. With the support of a certified sex therapist in Edmonton or St. Albert, you can begin to explore the root causes of these challenges and work toward renewed connection.

Emotional Intimacy: Rebuilding Trust and Closeness

When physical intimacy becomes difficult or emotionally fraught, emotional intimacy often needs extra care. Rebuilding trust and connection may involve exploring each partner’s emotional needs, attachment styles, and communication patterns. Our therapists offer a safe, affirming space to unpack these layers without judgment.

Questions we help couples explore include:

• What does intimacy mean to each of us during this phase?
• How can we nurture emotional closeness beyond sexual contact?
• Are there unresolved fears or disappointments affecting our bond?
• How can we express our needs in ways that feel safe and respectful?

We encourage couples to redefine intimacy on their own terms. This might include non-sexual forms of closeness like shared rituals, gentle touch, or quality time. The goal is not to “fix” the libido but to strengthen the emotional foundation of the relationship.

When Trying to Conceive Becomes a Source of Conflict

It’s not uncommon for conflict to arise during the TTC journey. Differences in coping styles, libido levels, or fertility goals can lead to miscommunication and resentment. You may find yourselves stuck in recurring arguments, or avoiding difficult topics altogether.

In these moments, couples therapy can provide clarity and healing. Our therapists specialize in helping you both feel heard and valued, even in disagreement. We work to identify patterns that may be keeping you disconnected, and offer tools to communicate with greater empathy and effectiveness.

In addition to traditional couples therapy, we also offer sex therapy to address intimacy disruptions. Learn more about our sex therapy services in Edmonton and how they can support your journey back to physical and emotional connection.

How Wholesome Psychology Can Help

At Wholesome Psychology, we understand that intimacy during the fertility journey is complex, personal, and often overlooked in medical settings. Our team offers specialized therapy for individuals and couples experiencing distress around sexuality, intimacy, and relationship challenges while trying to conceive.

Our services include:

• Emotionally focused couples therapy for navigating the ups and downs of TTC together
• Certified sex therapy for addressing libido changes, sexual dysfunction, and intimacy fears
• LGBTQ2S+ affirming care for couples of all orientations and identities
• Inclusive fertility counselling for diverse paths to parenthood
• Trauma-informed therapy for those with past experiences affecting present-day intimacy

Whether you’re just beginning your fertility journey or have been navigating it for some time, our team is here to support you with warmth, respect, and evidence-based care. Meet our compassionate team of psychologists and therapists here.

Serving Edmonton & St. Albert With Heart-Centered Therapy

Our counselling offices in Edmonton and St. Albert offer a calm, welcoming environment where you can reflect, heal, and reconnect. We offer both in-person and virtual sessions, giving you the flexibility to access care in a way that fits your life. You deserve support that honors your journey and values your well-being.

If you're struggling with intimacy while trying to conceive, we encourage you to take the next step. Reach out to us for a consultation or first appointment. Contact us today and begin your path toward emotional wellness and deeper connection.

You are not alone—and you don’t have to go through this without help.