Understanding Sex Compulsion and Out of Control Sexual Behaviours
Sex is an integral part of a balanced, healthy lifestyle. For some individuals, however, sexual thoughts, urges, or behaviours can become overwhelming and compulsive. This can disrupt emotional well-being, relationships, and daily functioning. If you find that sexual behaviours are becoming difficult to control and are affecting your life in negative ways, it may indicate the presence of sex compulsion or out of control sexual behaviour (OCSB).
What is Sex Compulsion and OCSB?
Sex compulsion or hypersexuality refers to an excessive preoccupation with sexual thoughts, fantasies, or behaviours that can cause significant distress. Out of control sexual behaviour (OCSB) is characterized by sexual urges, thoughts, or actions that feel uncontrollable and out of alignment with an individual's values. While these conditions share some similarities, they each have distinct features that can affect a person’s mental and emotional health. A trained therapist can help differentiate between these issues and guide you on the best course of action for healing.
Signs and Symptoms of Sex Compulsion or OCSB
Recognizing the signs of sex compulsion or OCSB is an important step toward understanding the impact on your life and seeking support. Here are some common symptoms:
- Sexual impulses that feel beyond your control
- Using sexual behaviour to escape negative emotions like stress, loneliness, or depression
- Engaging in risky sexual activities that may lead to health consequences or harm relationships
- Struggling to maintain emotional intimacy in relationships
- Spending excessive time thinking about or engaging in sexual behaviour
- Extramarital affairs or multiple sexual partners
- Frequent use of pornography
- Increased frequency of masturbation
- Feelings of shame, guilt, or remorse after sexual encounters
It’s important to note that participating in these behaviours alone does not automatically indicate a problem. The key factor is the level of control and the emotional impact on your life and relationships.
When to Seek Help
If these sexual behaviours are causing distress in your personal life, relationships, or mental health, it may be time to seek support. Therapy can provide a safe, non-judgmental space for addressing the root causes of sex compulsion and out of control sexual behaviour, helping you develop healthier coping mechanisms and strategies for emotional healing.
Treatment for Sex Compulsion and OCSB
Effective treatment for sex compulsion and OCSB often involves a combination of therapy and support. The right treatment plan will depend on the unique needs and circumstances of the individual. Some common treatment approaches include:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
CBT is an evidence-based approach that helps individuals understand how their thoughts, emotions, and beliefs influence their behaviours. By addressing negative patterns, CBT can help individuals regain control over their actions and improve emotional regulation.
Behaviour Therapy
Behaviour therapy focuses on changing the behaviours that contribute to distress. It emphasizes the impact of one’s environment and conditioning on their actions, aiming to modify harmful habits and develop healthier coping strategies.
Solution-Focused Therapy
Solution-focused therapy views individuals as inherently capable of change. It focuses on identifying strengths and finding practical solutions to current challenges. This approach can empower individuals to overcome obstacles and regain control over their lives.
Sex Therapy
Sex therapy addresses concerns about sexual health, intimacy, and dysfunction. It also helps individuals explore complex sexual feelings, practices, and trauma, supporting clients in achieving a healthier relationship with their sexuality.
Family Systems Therapy
Family systems therapy looks at the family unit as a whole, exploring how family dynamics and relationships impact an individual’s behaviour. This approach can help improve communication and resolve underlying issues that contribute to distress.
How Can Therapy Help?
If sex compulsion or OCSB is negatively impacting your life, know that support is available. At Wholesome Psychology, our certified therapists offer a compassionate, client-centered approach tailored to your unique needs. Whether through individual therapy or group support, we are here to help you develop healthier coping mechanisms, rebuild relationships, and find the healing you deserve.
Reaching out for support may feel daunting, but it is an essential first step toward regaining control of your life. Contact us today to learn more about our therapy options and begin your journey toward healing.